You might be saying to yourself, “Vonita, why would I EVER leave my family and friends at home while I go on vacation BY MYSELF???”
“My kids are my heart and soul..."
"I don’t go anywhere without my husband... "
"My girlfriend would kill me if I went on a trip with my boys, without her..."
"What would I do if my girls aren’t there with me???”
Why? Because it’s AWESOME! As an advocate for caregivers all around the world, my proposition is simple - leave anyone you take care of at home.
That may include, but is not limited to, children, parents, self-centered friends/co-workers, spouses, partners - anyone that will take the attention off of you having a good time!
I’m talking about non-negotiable, unadulterated, selfish time to get away and get in touch with the one person that has been around since the day you were born and will be with you the day you leave this world...you.
Many caregivers are primarily responsible for continuously troubleshooting issues and attending to people’s needs, all day, every day! Don’t you deserve a break?
This may be a radical concept, but hear me out on this one.
I personally think that with all you do for everyone in your life, you are entitled to have at least one trip dedicated solely to you.
Here are 5 reasons why you should really consider going on a solo trip:
- You get to choose the destination.
It’s your holiday. If that means you just want to stay at the Holiday Inn in your home town to get some sleep for a couple days or go zip lining in Brazil, then so be it!
If you decide you are finally going to take that trip to Greece and your husband doesn’t want to go, leave him home! Go by yourself.
Life is too short to wait for someone else to be ready to follow your dreams!
- The only person you need to worry about is you.
No compromising or negotiating activities with kids, your girlfriends or anyone else.
You literally get to do whatever you want! Sleep, stay in bed, lay out on the beach, have a spa day - whatever floats your boat!
- You get to rediscover you.
Often times, we get so caught up in addressing everyone else’s needs that we disconnect from our own.
When you take a solo trip, it gives you the opportunity to reconnect with yourself and reflect on your needs and goals.
You get to devote time to you with no excuses!
- Believe it or not, you can have fun by yourself!
What is that saying? Sometimes you may be lonely, but you are never alone. There is a whole, big ole’ world out there, full of new people to meet!
When you are open to the experience, you would be surprised at how people will just randomly have conversations with you. You get to vibe over your commonalities and learn things from someone else’s perspective.
And if prefer to not be completely alone, there are multiple solo travel groups to explore and Groupon Getaway deals with itineraries to be had!
- It will make you a better caregiver.
When we are run down, tired and overworked, it doesn’t make us the easiest partner, parent or co-worker to deal with.
Speaking for myself, I can get irritable, cranky and my tolerance for BS is even lower than usual. That means that someone might get their feelings hurt if they are getting on my nerves too bad, LOL!
For me personally, taking these types of breaks replenishes me and allows me to be more patient, empathetic and nurturing when I come back home. Just saying!
So marinate on it a bit. Take a chance! Discover the solo traveler in you!